No More Looking Over Your Shoulder

By Lee Collins •  Updated: 03/29/16 •  5 min read
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A few years ago I created and shared a presentation I called “No More Looking Over My Shoulder”. It was very well-received. It touched the hearts of many people, and even made many “tough guy” grown men cry. And I meant every word.

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Before I continue…

Nothing I am saying you don’t already know. I may give it different words, and bring additional insight. But the beauty of it all is you know you are right now struggling to find yourself.

And, here’s the “letting go” part… you need to let go of the past.

Pretend it doesn’t exist. You just plopped down on the earth today. Yes, everything up till now makes you what you are right now.

Warts and all. GOOD! We have a fresh starting point!

But, what your future looks like depends on what you decide NOW. Not in the past.

You are putty in your own hands to mold and shape as you see fit, into something beautiful or a gelatinous blob of depression and regret.

Depression is living in the past. Anxiety is living in the future. Only through the bliss of right now can you experience true peace.

Sure you’ll have some things that creep in that you’ll have to address. But… Let. It. Go. Until. It. Needs. Addressed. Then. Address. It. And. Move. On. Don’t think about it.

“Oh but this, oh but that…” NO!

  • Have you ever done something that you regret and still feel like you can’t forgive yourself?
  • Have you ever made a mistake in the past you’re still blaming yourself for?
  • Are you still torturing yourself with the idea that if only you could have done it differently/better, you would be living a much better life right now?
  • Are other people blaming you for things that happened 1, 2, 5 or 10 or more years ago?

OK, shake that off because I have great news for you!

You don’t have to hold on to this burden. Release it. Set yourself free.

NOW is all that matters. NOW shapes your future, because the minute you decide it’s not your past and then your NEW past is shaping the future NEW you. Not the old past.

Let go of the past. Reshape your NOW to build and create the future of your dreams.

Unless you have a time machine nothing in the past can be fixed.

But, you can decide right now to create a new past, with no doubts, no regrets, and no negativity.

Right now you are creating a new past full of doubt and hopelessness and regret, because you’re holding on to crap you can’t fix. From yesterday. Or last week. Or last year. Or last decade.

There, that thought you just had is one you could replace with something sharper and brighter and more in alignment with you and your soul purpose.

Why do you only choose to remember the bad things? If that is the case, why can’t you flip it around and just remember the GREAT things? You have proven you have the skill to ignore one or the other… so flip it over!

Better yet, leave it all in the past and focus on how amazing you are right this very moment. And this one. And this one. See, you are already building a better future with 3 new amazing thoughts!

Think about it…

Even as I write this, the words commit themselves to my history. Because to me it is. To you, it’s the future because you haven’t encountered it yet. Funny how that works. But after you read it, it’s also your past.

But you are maybe a few thoughts wiser now, so your future is already brighter!
Yay – go YOU!

Was that a smile?

It’s really just a matter of deciding. And then taking action.

One step in the right direction is worth a wasted mile behind.

Your future is in your hands. It depends on NOW.

“But I can’t let it go, there are so many things.”

Well, then you are doomed to live in the hindsight of what could have been rather than the fabulous beauty of what CAN BE.

Which sounds better?

“But those people keep reminding me…”

Well, get those ignorant people out of your life. If all they do is hold on to your past and drag you backward, they have no place in your bright and shining future. I don’t care who they are.

Do you want to live YOUR life or the one they decide for you?

Either way it’s a choice. And it’s time to make a choice.

You get to decide.

I pray you choose wisely my dear beautiful soul.

No more looking over your shoulder.

Because your time truly is NOW. Reshape you NOW – and change your life for the better!

Lee Collins

Lee Collins is a former Air Force Network Systems Engineer and Fortune 500 Corporate VP - who is best known as an early pioneer of Direct Response Marketing on the Internet. He has over 24+ years experience running operations for multiple multi-million dollar marketing, software, SEO, financial, and business coaching companies. When Lee isn't helping his private clients solve big (and small) marketing and operations problems, Lee is most likely heading up into the mountains in his fully-equipped Jeep Gladiator. Or just gone fishing.